As someone who only ever got to update phones because my old ones suffered terminal damage, this story also feels like a great Rorschach test for clumsy parents 😂
Back when my wife and I were broke, she dropped her phone enough times that the phone started to cut her face when she tried to use it. She brought to an Apple Store and someone took pity on her. They replaced the screen and just asked her to leave with a better case.
When my wife and I have laid down boundaries like you did (she won’t automatically get it fixed once broken), but we also WANT the kids to have whatever X item/privilege they’e lost, we try to make use of it productively. You’ve already gone the route of it as a gift—and the time without probably serves as a good lesson. But for the future, is there a way for your daughter to earn it back? Not thinking of this as a “do chores to earn money” approach, but rather setting some “responsibility goal” for her to demonstrate learning a lesson to show she’s ready to try again.
That sounds totally reasonable to me. Especially as my girls get older (16, 14, 11), I find myself asking "would I expect that of me", when we are setting rules for them. Sounds like your daughter learned the lesson and has suffered the consequence, but it's always fun as a parent to get them a gif they really want and will be excited for.
We started are girls on old (wifi only) phones too. The older 2 have real phones now, but only as they have started high school. The youngest is using my old phone from 6 yrs ago, but doesn't want a newer old phone because that one is hers.
It was a little over $100? I've genuinely never repaired a screen before, having always been careful about my cases or having a phone so long that it made no sense to repair it.
As someone who only ever got to update phones because my old ones suffered terminal damage, this story also feels like a great Rorschach test for clumsy parents 😂
Back when my wife and I were broke, she dropped her phone enough times that the phone started to cut her face when she tried to use it. She brought to an Apple Store and someone took pity on her. They replaced the screen and just asked her to leave with a better case.
When my wife and I have laid down boundaries like you did (she won’t automatically get it fixed once broken), but we also WANT the kids to have whatever X item/privilege they’e lost, we try to make use of it productively. You’ve already gone the route of it as a gift—and the time without probably serves as a good lesson. But for the future, is there a way for your daughter to earn it back? Not thinking of this as a “do chores to earn money” approach, but rather setting some “responsibility goal” for her to demonstrate learning a lesson to show she’s ready to try again.
That sounds totally reasonable to me. Especially as my girls get older (16, 14, 11), I find myself asking "would I expect that of me", when we are setting rules for them. Sounds like your daughter learned the lesson and has suffered the consequence, but it's always fun as a parent to get them a gif they really want and will be excited for.
We started are girls on old (wifi only) phones too. The older 2 have real phones now, but only as they have started high school. The youngest is using my old phone from 6 yrs ago, but doesn't want a newer old phone because that one is hers.
How much was the repair? It always seemed like a repair costs more than the phone is even worth used
It was a little over $100? I've genuinely never repaired a screen before, having always been careful about my cases or having a phone so long that it made no sense to repair it.
$100 is an incredible steal for a screen replacement.
I haven't considered letting my daughter have a phone yet but I also have an old cracked Pixel 7 Pro that could work whenever we get to that point
Yeah, I think starting with an older phone that lets them understand the rules, how and when to use it, etc. is a really good idea.